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Having to spend a night at home with your partner doesn't always sound very romantic or entertaining, especially if you have to do it because your funds don't stretch to a meal at a restaurant or night at the cinema, but if it's done right, your financially reduced date might just become a favorite event!

The key to any financially restricted project is planning.  Many dates involve eating and/or drinking as well as entertainment.  This is where it becomes expensive.  By planning the date in advance, you can take care of the food/drink issues and so reduce the cost of your date.  Another expense issue is often admission fees.  Think about the places you can go where this isn't going to create a burden on your budget.

1. You could stay home.  A date at home mightn't sound very romantic - but consider this.  A candle-lit picnic on a blanket on your living room floor.  Now that sounds as if it's got potential right?  Ok, once you know when this is happening, set it up during the day.  You need to organize what you're going to eat, drink, and what you're going to do.  You may also need to physically rearrange your living room to accommodate your idea.

Select food that you can prepare in advance, which isn't too messy and that can be eaten with your fingers.  If you want to serve wine, then it's probably better that you become creative with cheaper food and use the main part of your budget on a good bottle of wine.  Find a nice throw or blanket, spread it on the floor and pile cushions up around it.  Place candles around the living room in places where they aren't likely to catch fire and generally tidy up anything that looks out of place.  If you're planning on watching a video/DVD, then this should be checked to see if it's working before your partner arrives.  If you just want to listen to romantic music, organize this also in advance.

When your partner arrives, the lights should be dim or candle-lit only, the food should be warm and ready to eat, and the wine chilled, ready to drink.  All that remains is for you both to kick off your shoes, put on the entertainment and enjoy your romantic picnic on a budget.

2. Going to the movies and theater is expensive, but there are ways around this.
Check out the various movie theaters for special offers.  Some theaters will offer you two tickets for the price of one on certain nights, or for certain times.  Others will give discounted prices for unpopular times.  Theaters often give discounted tickets for new musicals etc so not only do you get a good price, but you get to see the show before it becomes too popular.  Get a ticket for a late or early show, and organize to eat before or after the movie.  If you eat at home you can perhaps tie in your menu with the movie you're going to see!   Instead of going out for a meal afterwards, consider an ice cream.  You could sit in a restaurant and eat this, or if the weather is nice, why not buy an ice cream to take out and have a romantic walk whilst you eat it.

3. Fresh air is free!  This is the perfect budget date.  Find a nice place to take a walk, perhaps see something different like a national park or monument.  Take some sandwiches and coffee out to a nearby lake and just enjoy being together - don't forget to take some extra bread for the hungry ducks and chipmunks that might be hoping to be invited to your picnic.  If you have rollerblades, why not have a rollerblading date?  Or skateboard?  Or swim in the lake?  If you're outside, make use of what's available to make the date memorable.

4. What are you and your partner interested in?  Find places to go that will allow you to pursue these interests without exceeding your budget.  Museums for example usually have low entry fees (some are even free), although high profile sports events are expensive to attend, find some lower league team to support and have a great night watching a game live - don't forget to take your coffee and snacks with you!

5. Take up a new hobby together.  Find something new that you can both get interested in and attend a class to learn it together.

The most important part of any date is that you spend quality time together.  The focus of the date isn't so important.  Make sure that you plan something that you know you'll both enjoy and it doesn't matter if it's not dinner and dancing at the top night spot in town.  If you spend the evening laughing - and loving - even a shared soda and hotdog in the car park can be a romantic date!

Years ago a woman cheating on her spouse was unheard of but in modern times the number of women who cheat on their spouse is growing exponentially.  The differences in men and women cheating is that men often cheat for physical reasons while women often have emotional reasons for cheating on their partner.  The reasons why women cheat include loneliness, revenge, boredom and self esteem.  These factors may be inexcusable but they do exist in the minds of a cheating woman.  More and more women are becoming guilty of cheating on their partners and it is often emotional reasons rather than lust that drive them to these affairs.

Loneliness is one of the primary reasons that women seek out affairs and cheat on their partner.  Although it sounds contradictory that they should feel lonely because the women are currently in a relationship, it is often a relationship that is not emotionally fulfilling.  Women involved in these unsatisfactory relationships may feel as lonely if not more so than women who are not in a relationship.  If a woman is not receiving the attention she feels she deserves in a relationship, she may be tempted to seek that attention elsewhere and become involved in an affair.  A partner who becomes overly involved with his work or a hobby may not make time to spend with his partner and this often results in the women feeling as if they are all alone.  This feeling of loneliness can drive a woman to cheat on her partner.  One of the most prevalent reasons why women cheat is that they feel as though their current partner is not lavishing much attention on them and they feel lonely even in his presence.

Revenge has also become and increasing factor in why women cheat.  The modern woman is no longer willing to sit back and accept the fact that their partner may cheat on them.  If a woman confirms or even just holds a suspicion that their partner is cheating on them, they may be driven to engage in an affair of their own as an act of revenge.  The theory of, 'An eye for an eye,' has unfortunately trickled down into the realm of romantic relationships and many women see a cheating partner as a justification to have an affair of their own.  They believe that they are justified in having an affair if they catch their partner cheating on them.  Furthermore they may be extremely hurt by their partner's actions and seek a way to hurt them in the same way.  While it is not a justifiable reason, many women see revenge as an appropriate reason for cheating on their spouse.

Boredom may also factor into why women cheat.  Their current relationship may have fallen into a rut and lost the excitement that it possessed in the early stages of its existence.  They may feel that their relationship has become dull and predictable and rather than trying to bring excitement into their current relationship they may pursue affairs in the hopes of achieving the excitement they felt when they first became involved with their partner.  While an affair may bring about a temporary solution of making the woman feel excited about love again it may ultimately destroy both their current relationship as well as their cheating relationship.  An affair is exciting not only because it involves a relationship with a new person but also because it involves sneaking around and ultimately getting away with doing something wrong.  To many women this is very exciting and they are willing to risk losing their relationship over their affair.  Many women cheat because they are bored with the monotony of their current relationship and they seek to bring excitement back into their life through engaging in an affair.

Another reason why women cheat is a lack of self esteem.  Women may feel that they are not getting an adequate amount of admiration from their partner and they may be tempted to cheat to affirm that they are still attractive and desirable.  When a relationship meets a stagnant point where the partners are no longer making a conscious effort to reassure each other that they are still desirable, many women begin to feel insecure.  This insecurity leads women to seek affirmation of their desirability outside of the relationship in the form of an affair.  Being found desirable by another compensates for the lack of longing they feel from their partner and helps to boost their self esteem.  While women with a healthy self esteem are more apt to remain happy in a relationship, those that lack self esteem are often driven to cheat on their partners.

Men are not the only ones who cheat on their partners.  It is becoming more and more common for women to be guilty of cheating.  While women are beginning to cheat as often as men the reasons why women cheat are much different than the reasons why men cheat.  The reasons for women cheating are tied tightly to emotional reasons such as loneliness, revenge and boredom.

The reasons why men cheat in a relationship are often different than the reasons why women cheat.  A man's reason for cheating can encompass a wide variety of reasons including genetics, a sense of challenge, self esteem and a lack of interest in their current relationship.  While none are justifiable all of these can be reasons why a man chooses to stray and cheat on his current partner.

Although genetics may factor into why men cheat on their partner it may also just be a week defense for a man who is caught in his unfaithful actions.  A theory exists that testosterone levels in men make them more susceptible to infidelity.  This theory is based on the hypothesis that men are genetically predisposed to cheating because they are ingrained with the notion that the survival of the species is dependent on their procreation.  While this may be true it is certainly not an excuse for unfaithfulness in our age of overpopulation.  It may be true that in prehistoric times, men were tasked with populating the earth this is certainly not true today and is not a defensible excuse for cheating on your partner.  The truth is that in a truly loving relationship a man should be able to control himself and remain faithful despite any hormonal urges to produce offspring.  The theory of man being predisposed to cheating does not hold water because while it may be true, there is no excuse for not being able to quell these urges.

Another reason men cheat is because they feel a sense of challenge in their infidelity.  Actually being able to get away with an affair is a challenge that men enjoy.  Additionally they enjoy the challenge of finding other women with which to cheat.  To them the affair is more about the conquest then anything else.  Sure they may enjoy the physicality of the affair, but the pursuit and sneaking around is what really drives men who cheat on their partners.  They see fooling their partner as a tremendous accomplishment and they enjoy the logistics of orchestrating the affair without their partner learning of their transgressions.  To them the thrill of sneaking around and the fear of being caught creates and adrenaline rush that is more important than the affair or even their current relationship.  Men also cheat because they are driven by competition.  If there friends are single or cheating on their partners and often have affairs with several women the man may feel that he needs to keep up with his friends.  To these men affairs become a way of competing with their friends.  Infidelity in men is often driven by a sense of competition.

Many men also engage in affairs because doing so is an ego boost for them.  The knowledge that they can find multiple women willing to engage in an intimate relationship with them is a tremendous self esteem builder for some men.  They take pride in the ability to attract women and don't care about the fact that doing so may destroy their relationship.  To these men the excitement of the chase is almost more important than the conquest.  Sometimes just knowing that other women find them desirable, is enough to stroke the ego of these men.  In general it is a lack of self esteem on their part that drives them to seek out affairs in order to reiterate their attractiveness and desirability.

A man who is in an undesirable relationship may also be driven to cheat on their partner.  If the relationship has begun to wane and the man no longer feels the same attraction to his partner he may seek out an affair out of boredom.  If he feels his current relationship is lacking excitement he may also be driven to cheat in the hopes that he will find the excitement he desires elsewhere.  While the wise thing may be to end the deteriorating relationship in search of a new more desirable partner, many men opt to hold onto the current relationship and engage in affairs.  This may be because they fear that they may not find what they are looking for and may be left lonely and without a partner so they hold onto the failing relationship figuring that a bad relationship is better than none at all.

Men cheat for a variety of reasons.  While none of these reasons may be justified, they do exist.  The reasons that men cheat include genetics, competition, self esteem and boredom.  In general while genetics may play a small part in the urge for men to cheat the majority of cheating takes place because men cannot control their sexual and competitive urges, are lacking in self esteem or are unhappy in their current relationship.