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In general a matrix is a table of data containing information in both rows and columns.  Specifically a relationship matrix could be one that is used to determine your genealogical relationship to another.  However in terms of relationships, the relationship matrix often refers to how compatible you and your partner are in respect to certain issues such as communication, interests, and financial and career.  While the partners do not have to agree completely in all or any of these areas, finding a balance is critical to a healthy relationship.

Communication is one of the factors in the relationship matrix.  Style of communication can vary from speaking based on emotion and without much thought to your words to speaking based on logic and putting much thought into what you plan to say before you begin speaking.  On one hand the speaker who relies on emotion, often speaks from their heart and their words usually reflect their feelings at the moment they are speaking.  On the other hand there is a speaker who relies on logic and often spends much time calculating their words before they speak.  This speaker rarely reflects their emotions in their words and instead relies on facts to support their argument.  While neither style of speaking is right or wrong, conflict may arise in a relationship if the partners are on opposite ends of the spectrum.  These problems may arise if the partner who speaks on emotion is frustrated with the lack of emotion and slow speech of the logical speaker and the logical speaker is in turn frustrated by the lack of restraint shown by their partner.  The partners can help to manage this part of the relationship matrix by trying to meet somewhere in the middle of the two extremes.  The emotional speaker may agree to take some time to step away from their emotions for a few minutes before speaking and the logical speaker may agree to try to speak more freely and without so much restraint in the future.

Interests and hobbies is another aspect of the relationship matrix that can either doom or enhance a relationship.  Sharing common interests can be beneficial to a relationship because it fosters closeness and a bond between the partners.  They are able to enjoy a common interest or hobby and doing so brings them closer together.  If a couple has no common hobbies, this can be detrimental to the relationship because the members of the couple may feel as though their partner is not taking an interest in their activities.  While this may sound simple enough, it is important to realize that balancing out this aspect of the relationship matrix is very important.  Having too many interests in common can result in one or both of the partners feeling as if they are being smothered while showing no interest in your partner’s activities indicates a lack of caring.

Financial and career aspirations are a tricky part of the relationship matrix that can be a source of much strife in a relationship.  There are two extremes for approaching finances and career.  On one extreme there is the logical and conservative partner while on the other extreme is the emotional and liberal partner.  These two extremes can be a recipe for disaster so it is necessary for this couple to find a sense of balance.  While one partner may be a risk taker in terms of their finances and career the other prefers a more conservative route.  Such extremes often result in the partners becoming frustrated with each other.  This frustration stems from the partners both being uncomfortable with the other’s approach.  For example the more liberal partner may be upset that the more conservative partner sticks with an unfulfilling job just because the pay is good while the conservative partner may be frustrated that the liberal partner works at a low pay job just because it is enjoyable.  In order to resolve any issues and avoid future conflict, it helps if the partners can come to an agreement that is more to in the middle of the road.  Reaching a compromise that is moderate instead of conservative or liberal will ensure that the financial aspect of the relationship matrix is balanced.

The key to managing the relationship matrix is balance.  Finding a compromise in regards to crucial issues of the matrix such as communication, interests and finances will result in a much happier and healthier relationship.  While complete agreement is not critical to the survival of the relationship, a willingness to make compromises and understand your partner’s positions on the matrix is critical.

Not all dating sites are created equal and as a result it may take some careful research to find the site that is right for you.  Dating sites may vary in a variety of ways including the demographic they cater to, the ways that they allow contact between members, the methods, if any, of matchmaking that are available and the cost of a membership to the site.  Considering all of these factors will help you to choose the best dating site for you.

If you are interested in meeting potential partners of a particular race, creed, age or sexual orientation, you may wish to choose a dating site that caters to the demographic that is of particular interest to you.  There are dating sites that are specific to many different races, religions and also sites that cater to a particular sexual orientation or age group.  While most sites include a wide variety of members and you can probably find a suitable match on just about any site, if you want to increase your chances you will want to choose a site where the majority of members meet your demographic requirements.  Most dating sites allow you to search by certain keywords or phrases to find a match but you may be limiting yourself by joining a dating site that does not have a wide selection that interests you.  Also, while many dating sites may not explicitly state that they cater to a certain demographic you may find that this exclusivity is occurring naturally on the site.  If you have demographic requirements in your potential match, it is best to do plenty of research in order to choose a dating site that has a high percentage of potential mates who meet your demographic preferences.

Another area to investigate before choosing the best dating site for you is the ways in which the site allows contact between members.  Sites vary in the way that they allow contact and you have to decide what you are comfortable with before choosing a dating site.  You may find sites that will release contact information such as email address and telephone numbers on your approval or other sites that won’t divulge contact information in any situations but allows members to exchange information through private chat rooms at their own discretion.  On some dating sites, member email addresses are readily displayed and on others, even this piece of information is not allowed.  It is wise to safeguard your contact information by choosing a dating site that has firm restrictions on releasing contact information.  It’s important to keep in mind thought that this strictness can work for you and against you.  It can prevent you from receiving contact from many members that you don’t necessarily want to receive contact from but it also prohibits you from having easy access to a member that you find appealing.  It is important to consider your feelings on the availability of contact information on a dating site and carefully research the regulations before choosing a dating site.

Evaluating a dating site’s matchmaking methods is another way to choose the best dating site for you.  If you prefer to peruse member profiles at your own leisure and not be contacted by site administrations regarding potential matches, the best dating site for you may be one that does not have match making features.  If you don’t have the time to comb through member profiles in search of a match or simply don’t want to do this you may want to choose a dating site that does provide you with information regarding potential matches.  If you decide to go with a site that provides a matchmaking feature, you will need to further investigate the methods of matchmaking in choosing the dating site that is right for you.  Matchmaking methods utilized by some dating sites include matching up members based on the percentage of matching keywords or phrases or using a trial and error method by sending you a few initial matches and then tailoring future matches based on your responses to the initial matches.  Whether or not you choose a dating site that provides matchmaking services is up to you but if you do choose one that does provide matchmaking services you need to also investigate the matchmaking methods employed by the site.

A final consideration in choosing the best dating site for you is the fees involved with the site.  There are dating sites that are free of charge and there are some sites charge a flat monthly rate while others charge based on the number of profiles you view and still others that charge based on the number of messages you send to members.  A free site may not necessarily be the best bargain when it comes to dating sites.  If you are really serious about finding a match a free site may not be for you.  Since there is nothing to lose in joining a free site, these sites are often filled with members who aren’t really serious about finding matches.  On the other hand sites that charge a fee, involve making an investment so you are more likely to find members on this site that are really committed to meeting matches.  Sites that charge a flat monthly fee for membership are likely your best bargain.  These types of dating sites give you the opportunity to view as many profiles as you like and send as many messages as you like to members.  While it’s true that you are also free to do this with dating sites that charge per profile viewed or message sent, you are probably more likely to exercise caution in the number of profiles you view or members you contact.  There are many factors involving fees to consider in choosing a dating site.

Choosing the right dating site for you may take a great deal of initial research but in the end your research efforts may result in you having a better chance of meeting a potential match.  Considering the demographic that the site caters to, the contact methods the site allows, the matchmaking methods employed and the applicable fees are all crucial to choosing the right dating site for you.