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What Are The Worst Things That You Can Do On A First Date?

January 19, 2012 By Leave a Comment


You have finally met someone whom you think is perfect for you and have also managed to fix a date with her. However you are apprehensive that it should not end in disaster. There are some first date mistakes that most of us tend to do and this could be the death knell for your relationship.

Top 6 Worst Things To Do On A First Date

  1. If your only intention for going on a first date is to have sex then honestly speaking, you are actually looking for a one night stand and not a relationship of love. If you are serious about your relationship, it would be best to wait for that special moment to happen on its own.
  2. Talking about your ex is one of the worst things that you can do on a first date. She is not there to hear you talk about your ex. It would also be a bad idea to be sarcastic and use abusive language against your ex. When you keep talking about your ex, it means that you have still not got over them.
  3. Do not lie about anything. If you try to impress her by lying to her constantly, you are bound to get caught eventually and this can spell disaster for your relationship. Do not pretend to be someone else.
  4. Do not throw hints that you want to settle down soon. It would completely catch her off guard as she might not be willing to make such a big commitment so early in the relationship.
  5. Never be late on your first date. Nobody likes to be kept waiting and when you are late it would create a bad impression about you.
  6. Do not try to get too touchy with her. If you try to constantly touch her, it can be irritating and offending too.

These are some of the worst things that you can do on a first date and are best avoided, if you are serious about your relationship.

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Things You Should Never Say On A Date

January 19, 2012 By Leave a Comment


Well believe it or not, there are certain things you should never say when out on a date.  It is important to remember that women and men think and react differently to situations and words. They tend to interpret the meaning of a word or sentence in their own unique style and if you choose the wrong choice of words, you can be certain that your date will end in disaster.

Here are some tips to keep in mind of Things You Should Never Say On A Date

  • Never comment on the appearance of your date. If you are too honest, it could backfire on you and your date could end even before it starts.
  • Do not talk about your ex. It would be best if you do not bring any topic related to your ex or her ex as it has the potential to ruin your perfect evening.  You might want to know about her past but asking to many questions would be a mistake.
  • Talking about her age is also a taboo subject. Most women do not like to talk about or discuss any topic related to their age or weight for that matter, and it is best avoided.
  • Never use abusive or vulgar language to impress a girl. Most girls find use of abusive words to be offensive, and she would then feel disgusted to be spending the evening with someone like you.
  • Do not make comments about someone else in front of her, especially if you find the other person to be more attractive than her.

These are some of the things that you should never say while on a date. If you are looking to build any kind of relationship further, such topics are best avoided. The things that you say to her should make her feel good and positive.

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Good Conversation Starters

January 19, 2012 By Leave a Comment


When you are meeting new people or getting yourself introduced, it is important that you have some good conversation starters, as it will make you and the other person more relaxed and comfortable.

Most of us lack this basic social skill and tend to make a mess of the entire situation.

You might not be able to find the right words or topics to start a conversation and this can make you tongue tied. However you need not worry, as it is a skill that can be easily learned. There are certain clichés that we tend to use and these are best avoided.

Here are some tips to hopefully get your conversations rolling    

  • The most common conversational topics include talking about the weather, school or college, movies, songs, holidays, hobbies, food or any event that was recently in the news.
  • Never choose one of those cheap pick up lines to impress anyone as it is bound to backfire. Most people are put off by those sleazy pick up lines. Learn to keep it simple and straight forward and do with some style of your own.
  • If the situations allows do some background research about the person you are going to meet. Awareness about their likes and dislikes will help you start a conversation easily.
  • Be your natural self and choose a topic that both of you can talk about in a comfortable manner. If the other person reacts positively to the topic that you had started, you can continue with it, otherwise it would be best to change the topic immediately.
  • Do not try to use the same topics with every individual you meet. Everybody has different tastes, likes and dislikes and depending on the individual you meet, you should be able to make changes to your conversational starters.

You can be able to improve your social life as you can master the skill of a good conversation.

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How to Survive a First Date (and Guarantee a Second One)

November 18, 2008 By Leave a Comment

First dates can be daunting but this article will offer a few tips for not only surviving a first date but also guaranteeing a second date.  You can not only survive your first date but ensure a second one by carefully planning the date while remaining flexible, being tidy, polite and courteous, being relaxed and honest on your date, being committed to having a good time and sharing about yourself without monopolizing the conversation.  These tips will help you survive your first date and also go a long way towards securing a second date.

Careful planning will help you to survive your first date and may lay the groundwork for a second date.  Make sure you have planned out the date ahead of time and made arrangements to ensure that the date runs smoothly.  On a first date it is best not to leave anything to chance or to rely on making on the spot decisions about what to do next because doing so can create uncomfortable moments on the date.  Don't just plan out what you would like to do on the date but also map out the best routes to arrive at your destinations and pre-arrange any necessary reservations so you don't wind up not being able to find your destination or waiting a long time for an activity.  While careful preparation before the date will ensure that everything runs smoothly and will eliminate any unnecessary tension on the date you may still need to remain flexible.  Despite your best efforts, you may suffer a snag in your plans and being flexible and willing to adapt your plans will prevent you and your date from being frustrated on the date.  Your date will be impressed that you went to so much trouble in planning the date and will be flattered by your efforts.

Key characteristics for surviving a first date include tidiness, politeness and courteousness.  While these characteristics are important in any dating situation they are particularly important on a first date.  This is your opportunity to make a first impression that your date will admire so go all out in trying to impress your date.  Put extra effort into your personal appearance and strive to remain polite and courteous at all times during your first date.  Showing your date that you respect them by taking pride in your appearance and treating them with respect will help you to not only survive a first date but also guarantee a second one.

If you want to survive a first date and guarantee a second one, it's important to be relaxed and honest during your date.  If you are tense or evasive during your date, your date may not trust you and will not be comfortable on the date or eager to go on a second date with you.  If you try to be something you are not, your date will most likely see through your charade and will be put off by your dishonesty.  Additionally, they most likely will not be interested in pursuing a second date.  However if you relax during your date and are completely honest your personality will shine through and impress your date enough to entice them to be interested in a second date.

Committing to having a good time on your date will help you to survive a first date and guarantee a second date.  If you go into a first date with apprehensions or prejudices you will find yourself not having a good time.  It is extremely difficult to have a good time if you aren't open to the experience.  On the other hand if you are truly optimistic and are looking forward to your first date, you and your date will most likely wind up having a great time.  Your optimism and attitude will be infectious and will ensure that both you and your date have a great time on the first date and are eager for a second.

Finally truly being interested in sharing details of your personal life and learning more about your date will ensure that you survive a first date.  If you don't open up to your date and show them who you really are, they will most likely not be interested in a second date with your or even sharing much about themselves on the first date.  If you are not afraid to share personal information about yourself and are open to listening to what your date has to say, you will have a very successful first date.

Many singles find themselves nervous and apprehensive on a first date because they worry about how they will get through the date and whether or not this first date will lead to future dates.  It's okay to be nervous about a first date but following the advice in this article can enable you to not only survive a first date but also guarantee yourself a second date.

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10 No-Stress First Date Ideas

November 18, 2008 By Leave a Comment

Asking a person out can be stressful enough but once you've found someone to agree to going on a date with you, you may find yourself under the immense pressure of planning a first date.  Planning a first date can be stressful because you want everything to go smoothly and you also want to set yourself up for a second date.  The ideal first date offers the couple a chance to get to know each other in a casual atmosphere that doesn't put too much pressure on them to keep up a constant stream of small talk.  While first dates are the perfect opportunity to get to know someone new, if you are apprehensive about too much conversation on the first date, you can plan a date that focuses more on an activity than on conversation.  This type of date which focuses on a fun filled activity may be beneficial in leading to a second date.  First dates don't have to be stressful and there are many activities that are perfect for whatever type of first date you are looking to have.

Dinner theater is a perfect no-stress first date idea.  The atmosphere is usually cozy and romantic and provides the perfect blend of conversation and entertainment.  While a traditional dinner date can lead to awkward pauses in the conversation and the stress of juggling dinner and conversation, a dinner theater alleviates this stress because the meal is usually served during the performance.  This allows you to eat your meal without having to worry about small talk.  Intermissions are a great opportunity for the couple to get to know each other and if you have trouble with a conversation starter you can always fall back on talking about the performance.

Another no-stress first date idea is the aquarium or a museum.  The casual atmosphere alleviates the normal pressures of first dates.  There is so much to see and do at these facilities that you will not be lacking things to talk about or do.  You can spend a few hours wandering through the exhibits and really get to know your date.  Be sure to ask questions about what your date likes or doesn't like about the exhibits.  Being inquisitive will give you a better understanding of your date's personality.

Theme parks are also a great no-stress first date idea.  Everybody loves the chance to be a kid again and the opportunity to spend a day on thrill rides is a great way to spend a first date.  The long lines give you plenty of time to talk and get to know each other and you may find that every time the conversation starts to wane, you've made it to the front of the line and it's your turn to jump onboard and enjoy the ride.  The exhilaration of thrill rides may loosen inhibitions and bring a couple on a first date closer together.

If you are nervous about conversation, you might want to try the traditional movie and dinner first date.  The movie portion of the date takes the stress of conversation off of your shoulders and afterwards at dinner you have an instant conversation starter.  If you can't think of anything to talk about, you can always ask her what she thought of the movie to spark up a conversation.  Additionally you may find that after spending a few hours in a theater you already feel closer to your date and conversation comes easier than anticipated.

If conversation is your strong point and you're are not at all worried about keeping a conversation going a great no-stress date idea for you may be a coffee shop.  This is an environment where there is little to do except talk to your date.  This is perfect for the person who enjoys the art of conversation and is really looking forward to getting to know their date.

A white water rafting trip can be a terrific no-stress date idea.  Well, it may not be completely no-stress as the rapids can get pretty intense but it can be free of dating stress.  Rafting is a fun an adventurous activity where you have the opportunity to bond by working together to navigate your raft through rapids and enjoy the excitement of riding the rapids.  If you are not an experienced rafter, be sure to arrange to have this trip professionally guided so that you are not putting yourself in danger.

Still another no-stress first date idea is to spend some time volunteering.  You can make arrangements for you and your date to spend a few hours volunteering at either a soup kitchen or an animal shelter or any other non-profit organization you like.  This situation gives you a specific task to focus on and takes the stress off of the date.  It also gives you the opportunity to see whether or not your date is interested in helping others or not.  Make sure to check into this activity ahead of time because many places will not allow you to come in to volunteer unless you have completed a short introductory class beforehand.

Taking a course can be another great no-stress first date idea.  Many colleges offer courses on a variety of subjects and you are bound to find one that will be of interest to you.  For example a cooking class might be a fun first date idea.  You will have the opportunity to learn a new skill together and will probably leave at the end of the night with a really tasty dish that you can enjoy together.  Working together will alleviate the stress of a first date and will give you the opportunity to get to know each other in a casual environment.

Many cities offer singles or couples group bike rides or hikes.  Taking advantage of one of these opportunities can lead to a no-stress first date.  These activities can be fun because you are outdoors enjoying nature and you have the opportunity to get some exercise.  These activities also often include scheduled breaks in a scenic location which can be a great time to really talk to your date and get to know them a little.

One final no-stress first date idea is a trip to a fun center that offers mini-golf and arcade games.  Engaging in a game of miniature golf or squaring off by playing some video games is a fun and competitive way to spend your first date.  The activities are lighthearted and fun and introducing the element of competition really loosens people up so you and your date will probably have an easy time getting to know each other.

The key to a successful first date is to plan activities that are fun and entertaining without placing too much pressure on the couple.  Finding relaxing ways to get to know your date will ensure that your first date is a no-stress event that leads to a second date.  A completely no-stress date is one that both parties enjoy and one that allows the couple to engage in a balance of fun activity and meaningful conversation without putting too much emphasis on any one aspect of the date.

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