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Meeting your girlfriend's parents for the first time can be difficult but it's important to remember that impressing her parent's may be crucial to your relationship.  While meeting her parents may seem like a big step, it may not be as monumental as it appears.  Women value the relationships they have with their families and respect the opinions of family members regarding their boyfriends.  Wanting you to meet her parents may be more about getting their opinions on you as it is about making a serious commitment.  Consequently, it is in your best interest to do everything in your power to impress her parents.

Doing your homework and asking your girlfriend plenty of questions about her parents before the initial meeting is the first step to surviving meeting her parents.  This gives you the opportunity to learn a little about her parents before you even meet them.  This preparation will pay off immensely because it will enable you to avoid anything that you know will be a touchy subject and brush up on subjects that are of interest to them.  Knowing a little about their interest beforehand will give you a chance to bring up some of these interests to impress her parents.  A bonus to this tactic is that your girlfriend will be flattered that you are showing an interest in her parents before you even meet.  A few tidbits of personal information obtained before the initial meeting will really help you to survive meeting your girlfriend's parents.

When the day of the meeting arrives, be sure to dress to impress but also dress appropriately.  A sloppy appearance may be damaging to your potential relationship with your girlfriend's parents because they may be insulted by your appearance before you even open your mouth to speak.  Failing to take care in your appearance is a sign of disrespect to many people so exercise caution and dress nicely for your first meeting with your girlfriend's parents.  Taking care in your appearance is important to surviving a meeting with your girlfriend's parents but dressing appropriately for the situation is also important.  For example a pair of dress pants and a button down shirt would be appropriate for a lunch meeting but would look ridiculous on a tennis court.  Be sure to know exactly what is planned for the meeting so that you can not only dress well for the occasion but also appropriately.  It's important to remember that first impressions do count and that a well groomed appearance can help you survive meeting your girlfriend's parents.

Bringing an appropriate gift on your first meeting may also help you to survive meeting the parents of your girlfriend.  A little bribery never hurt so try to find out what they might like so that you can choose an appropriate gift.  If you are unable to obtain information about what type of gift they would like, flowers are always a welcomed gift and are very appropriate in this situation.  Bringing a small gift when you meet your girlfriend's parents can help you get the relationship off on the right foot.

Take care to avoid conversation topics that can be controversial.  In general religion, politics and sex are topics to avoid.  The last thing that you want to do is to spend your first meeting debating political issues.  While this may be an activity you normally enjoy, getting involved in a heated debate with your girlfriend's parents is definitely not a good idea.  Keep the conversation light and you will most likely survive meeting her parents.

Finally, try not to be too affectionate with your girlfriend when meeting her parents.  While she may be a grown woman, she is also their daughter and many parents would not be comfortable with overt displays of affection.  Too much affection can send the wrong message to her parents and put them on guard regarding you.  This can be detrimental to your relationship with your girlfriend because she will sense tension between you and her parents.

If you want to ensure a long lasting relationship with your girlfriend it is important to establish a good relationship with her parents.  Creating a good first impression and not giving them any reason not to like you, will lead them to approve of you and not send their daughter any subtle signals that they don't think you are right for her.  It is likely that your girlfriend will be influenced by her parent's opinions so establishing a good relationship with them is critical to your relationship with your girlfriend.

No matter how long you have been with the woman in your life meeting her friends can still be stressful.  While your relationship may be thriving it is important to understand that meeting her friends can either make or break your relationship.  It is important to remember that her friends are very important to her and that their opinion of you may have an affect on her opinion of you.  Making a good impression on her friends and gaining their trust will ensure that they don't do anything that can be detrimental to your relationship.

Having confidence and introducing yourself to your wife or girlfriend's friends is the first step to survive meeting her friends.  You already realize that these people are important to the woman in your life so go ahead and take the initiative and introduce yourself.  This is critical because it lets them know right away that you have confidence and that you are not intimidated by them.  It may also impress them by letting them know that you are interested in getting to know them and that you aren't simply putting on a charade because your wife or girlfriend is insisting that you meet them.

Once you have become acquainted with her friends, be sure to remember their names.  If you aren't good with names, use whatever association tricks you have to and make sure you don't mix up their names later on in the conversation.  They may all dress and act alike but being unable to distinguish them sends the message that you aren't really interested in getting to know them.  Calling one of your girlfriend's friends by the wrong name can be almost as damaging as calling your girlfriend by the wrong name.  Not only will the friend be insulted and no longer rooting for you and her friend to get along but your girlfriend may be hurt that you couldn't even be bothered to remember her friend's name.

Another tip for surviving meeting the friends of your wife or girlfriend is truly involve yourself in their conversations instead of just being there and trying to stay out of the conversation.  Like taking the initiative in introducing yourself, this also conveys the message that you are interested in getting to know them.  Taking an active part of the conversation demonstrates that you are listening intently and that you care about what they have to say.  Your girlfriend will appreciate the effort you are making to get to know her friends and more importantly her friends will not have a reason not to like you, at least initially.

It's important to not ignore your girlfriend when you are with her friends if you want to survive meeting her friends.  She may want you to take an interest in her friends but if you go too far and alienate your girlfriend you may doom your relationship.  Getting along with her friends is one thing but if she senses you are flirting with them, she may become jealous and it can cause problems in your relationship.  Exercise caution when meeting your girlfriend's friends and take an interest in getting to know them but do not go overboard and appear too interested in her friends.

Still another tip for surviving meeting the friends of your girlfriend is to listen carefully in your initial meeting and try to retain as much information about them as possible.  After the meeting when you are alone with your girlfriend make a casual comment or ask a question relating to your earlier meeting with her friends.  This will let your girlfriend know that you really were listening and that you have a genuine interest in befriending her friends.

Your girlfriend's friends will play an important role in whether or not your relationship with her survives.  Women value the opinions of their friends greatly and if you don't make a good impression on her friends, they may convince her that you aren't right for her.  It's important to make a genuine effort to get to know her friends because their opinion of you can either make or break your relationship with your girlfriend.  It is important to start a courteous and respectful relationship with them because you will most likely be spending quite a bit of time with them while you are with your girlfriend.