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A couple of years ago I remember the looks of pity my friend Jennifer would get when she mentioned she'd been trying an online dating site. I must admit, at the time, I too thought she must be desperate; couldn't she meet anyone in 'real' life? Didn't she meet people at work, or at parties? Read the rest of this entry »

Dating advice is all over the internet, in magazines, books, newspapers and on TV. Dating advice is so easy to give that an eight-year-old even wrote a book about it. keeping it straightforward. Read the rest of this entry »

When people come off a bad relationship or they simply want to find a boyfriend or a girlfriend they try the clubs and bars and when that does not prove to be fruitful they want to try online dating. Online dating works for thousands of people. Like any of means of looking for a mate like bars and clubs, you cannot expect to meet Prince or Princess Charming on the first try. Most of these dating sites have a profile that you fill out. Then they use the answers that you can them and they are matched in their database for other members. They present you with the matches and then you can exchange emails through the email account they will set up for you. This way to  you don’t have to use your own personal information.

In certain ways online dating is much safer, because you can email someone back and forth and they will never know anything about you unless you tell them. With so many missing people these days , safety is most important . When you go to the bars or clubs you can see people and even if you aren’t interested and they don’t get the hint. You can ‘t really hide. When you are online your home is your hiding place. These days these sites are so secure that you feel 100 percent safe.

Online dating can work for anyone. You may not find the person of your dreams right away but you cannot give up either. That is the great thing about online dating is that if you don’t like something in someone’s profile then you don’t have to contact them if you don’t want to. Finding the right online site can be the challenge. There are some great sites out there, you have eHarmony and Match.com are the most popular sites.

They usually have  low prices or they offer free to join and free to fill out your compatibility sheets. Whichever site that you choose to use make sure they are a secure site. Some tips for online dating is never give out any thing personal about yourself unless you are ready to. The websites will offer you their own email for your own protection. Never meet someone for the first time in private. Don’t let them pick you up, always meet someplace. Arrange to have a friend call your cell phone in the middle of the date. If you need help getting out of there then they can help.

There are hundreds of ways to stay safe, there are many people who believe that online dating is so safe that forget the rules. It is very important to follow the guidelines the site gives you and safety rules for yourself. If you see someone’s  picture and simply fall head over heels, remember it is an online site and so one can verify if pictures that people are putting up are themselves.

A perfect example, there is a woman Jennifer Kersee she is a reporter in Orlando, she has been missing for months and just recently her picture showed up on two dating sites using the picture that her parents used on the site to help find her. You just never know.

In this Internet age, online romance is as common as cyber cafes and reality shows, but for those who are looking for real love amongst the emails and jpgs, there's a little more needed than just knowledge of how the technology works.  In order to find the love of your life online, you need not only to be able to read the words of your chosen cyber mate, but also read between, under, over and around them!

Everyone is becoming increasingly conscious about identity theft, but it doesn't even have to be as complicated as that to convince someone that you're someone you're not in a online dating situation.  This means that once you've made a connection with someone online, you need to verify that they are the person they say they are.  The road to real love found online is littered with shattered dreams when people have discovered they have been chatting to a married person, a person of the wrong sex, or even an underage computer geek looking for thrills!  You need to protect your emotions as much as you would protect your person if you were meeting someone in real life - and that means digging around to make sure of whom you are chatting with.

What does the person tell you about themselves.  Where do they work for instance - does their workplace have a website and if so, if you were to quietly check out that website would you find their name, and maybe even a photo?  If there is a photo, does it match the description that they have given you about themselves?

What does your cyber mate tell you they are interested in?  What evidence do you find that this is the case?  For example, if they tell you they are interested in children or animals, do they have any children from a previous relationship (how much contact do they have - have you seen photos, a doting father/mother will want to show off pictures of their beloved offspring, even if they don't have much contact?), do they have pets?

If you ask personal questions are you given full answers or glib vague ones?  If you make a search on the email address, or real name/address, of your friend, what do you find - email groups can be particularly revealing?  Do they have other email identities?  Have them send you something through real mail - such as a card, and do the same in return.  Be wary of PO Box or work address only contacts - it could be very innocent, or it could be a flag of someone keeping you out of their real life for some reason or other!

Once you agree to meet your online partner in real life, make sure that this is in a public place.  Ask someone to go with you until you make the first contact and are comfortable enough to be alone with them.  If this isn't possible, ask someone to ring you about 20-30 minutes into the 'date' so that if you aren't comfortable or feel that something doesn't feel right, you can use this as an excuse to leave.  Never meet an online contact without leaving enough information of where you are going, and who with.

Although many cyber romances end in disappointment, and some of them end with disillusionment about the possibility of find real love through the Internet, there are also a number of success stories that show that if you are careful enough, and do your background research, then you should be able to uncover the 'players' and move on to find another sincere person looking to find the love of their life online.